Dating a girl who never had a boyfriend is usher dating anyone right now
In my years of diving deeply into the intimate details of Nice Guy’s lives, I’ve been struck by a recurring theme: lack of sexual leadership by men.
Women have the best of intentions when they tell a boy how he should treat a woman.So this concept of telling a man to wait for intimate connection before showing attraction is a common example of men being made to feel that their natural desires are “wrong.” Want to know what happens to men who are constantly conditioned to believe that they should repress sexual desire? Just look at what happened with the Catholic Church.I used to rehabilitate child sex offenders, and can say without doubt the leading trigger to their offending was shame.Men were also told to be more sensitive and caring, which we took to mean “be more like a woman” and to stop being masculine.It became the least fashionable thing in the world for a man to show sexual attraction to a woman. It became difficult for men to safely understand the difference between harassment, assault, flirting and foreplay.
And there was no-one there to teach us, because they were too scared to give the wrong advice.